NEGATIVE PEOPLE DO HARM AND DO GOOD

This brings back a lot of memories now. As I try to put things in a better way out here, I still know, everybody hearing out the words ‘negative people’ can already think of a person or a number of people whom they crossed over the past years of their life. Well, let’s walk along those memories together and throw some light on the events and the characteristics of those people. And for the audience out there, who haven’t faced any negative person in your life yet, well this will be more than informative for you. Maybe this might strike you like a fantasy, as people of such nature are hard to believe to be in existence until and unless you come across one for yourself.

I guess by the law of God to maintain balance in this globe, it’s a 50-50 thing for all types of people. People should always try and spread positivity, but by the law of 50-50, there must be negativity in the air as well along with positivity, isn’t it? So, there are these people who maintain the balance by spreading negativity. They sustain on the negative emotions, such as grieves and miseries, of other people in their ecosystem.

I have observed over the years of my life, that negative people have a very distinct quality--- they love themselves the most. Now, loving yourself is not a bad thing, but when you start thinking that your happiness means the most, even more than the people who love you or support you or remain by your side always, that's the time you need to start questioning yourself- ‘is it right?’

I am not judging anyone’s decision of loving themselves over others, as it’s a personal opinion, but people like this end up harming others unintentionally or maybe intentionally when they socialize and people get close to them. Their self-centered behavior might be an added advantage for them, but it results in creating miseries and other kinds of negativity for the ones in their ecosystem. Some of them in this category do things unintentionally, but then there are ones who have the perfect innocence in their actions, with the desires of being happy for eternity at the cost of miseries of the people who look out for them. I am a believer of ‘treat as you desire to be treated’, so people who are self-centered must try and stay away from socializing and getting someone close because they are going to end up hurting people anyway. And if they desire to socialize, they must better change their ways.

I cannot blame those people directly as well for their actions, as situations and events that occur in someone's life have the ability to change them to any extent, but I somehow sympathize them, because they don’t know or might have forgotten how beautiful the world is when you look after  the people who love and care for you. Ya, living a solo life, caring about yourself is a good thing, do that, but not by harming someone else’s sentiments. Taking advantage is actually an offense, be it from anyone, even your parents. Remember, you are always at the debt of people who looked out for you and stayed beside you. So if you cannot do any good, don’t go along and do something bad.

Speaking about the talents of negative people and their characteristics, obviously, it reflects that they just do harm, and only harm. So where is the positive part that I just mentioned in the title? Well, the above words were for both who faced them and the ones who are to face them at some point in future. But this part of positivity is exclusively for the ones who already crossed paths with the negative ones.

You faced that self-centered kind, you know that they ruined your life in some way or the other at that point in time, but that experience came along with a lot of lessons as well. I cannot list down the lessons directly because it varies from person to person, and we need to look deep to find what we have learned and the improvements in us because of those negative people----in my case, I developed ‘patience’, which was one of the essential components missing in my personality.

Well, whatever may be the impact of negative ones in your life, you must not keep them around for a longer period of time. Despite the attachment you have, let them go as soon as possible because if a lump of unwanted mass is not removed at a proper time, it can be cancerous to your whole system.

If you have faced some negative person in your life, understand that God has made this world of 50-50 personalities for a reason. Just like the negative person came in your life to teach you a lesson, you also crossed their paths to teach them something important.

Don’t be depressed with the deep thoughts of your past, as everything happens for a reason.

Thank you for reading till the end. Do share your thoughts and comments below on this topic, and let me know about the lessons you have learned from your experiences.