PILE-UPS

Life is always challenging an individual with a lot of hurdles every single day, and we try to face it one day at a time keeping things simple. We sleep every night thinking about whatever life threw at us today and wake up the next day thinking how to resolve the problems so that it doesn’t remain in our mind by the time we hit the bed at the end of the day.

A challenging life is good. It teaches us a lot of things. But what if we are unable to take down every problem as it hits us, one day at a time? What if things pile-up without even letting us resolve the previous issues? It’s similar to the homework of our classes from the previous week that we left undone at times and it got piled with the current week’s homework. But the difference lies in the emotional imbalances we face in real life and the consequences that we have to face whatsoever. Homework piles are mostly created due to our lazy nature, but the things that pile-up in real life maybe because of our slack our just situational. Either way, it breaks us.

I believe there are two kinds of pile-ups that overweigh upon us. One where everything happens at the exact same time, simultaneously, making us vulnerable and unable to deal with all of them. Second where things occur one after another in series and the damage that was done to an individual’s mind piles up, even after he takes them down one after another, one day at a time. Yes, damages also do pile up. Facing obstacles and dealing with them makes an individual strong, true, but when the obstacles are just meaningless and never-ending, then it can break the individual too.

In either of the situation, piling doesn’t seem to be a good thing for anyone, but almost every second people face this and get trapped into psychological loopholes, killing them from within, day after day, not able to find a way out to anything specific to resolve all that and make peace for themselves.

Emotional pile-ups can be disastrous and even after things are resolved, the damage done sometimes can never be fixed, leading the individuals to misjudge the future events and people they face in life. Like every other big event that change people from within, these things happen at a slow and steady pace, and people don’t realize this when they go through those behavioral changes. A good external help is always required to keep an individual to go through these kinds of situations, as a support is highly recommended to keep things calm, even if not permanently fixed.

Well, enough about negative pile-ups, let’s talk something good about them. Now, there are certain things in our life we have a hard time dealing with, or emotions that we have a hard time expressing, be it good or bad. We always have that something pulling us back, thinking about the consequences, or maybe we lack the confidence to make that happen. At those times, these pile-ups are the thing that helps us take a leap and act accordingly. It’s just like a dam, where the water has to be released when the upstream side develops more potential than it can hold. I explained with an engineering perspective, but I guess you got my point. Sometimes we just need a push, and when I think about an internal push, it’s our self-determination, and when we lack that, it’s the potential developed due to our pile-ups.

So, be it good or bad, pile-ups have a major impact on our lives, and things we do and who we are right now are a result of potentials and breakdowns caused within us due to those pile-ups. I hope you related to what I had in mind and stated out here in my broken words.

Thank you for reading till the end. Do leave your thoughts and views in the comment section below, and let me know how your pile-ups changed your life.