POVERTY, DREAMS AND DESIRES

This is one of my favorite topics to talk upon as I have been the first-hand victim of this situation. I know the title seems to be a bit confusing but this is something that consumes a great chunk of my ‘overthinking’ time at this present phase of life.

The feeling of living in poverty when you have a house to live in, a family to live with and food to survive is quite absurd. Even after acquiring the basic amenities of life, how can a person feel to be living in some kind of poverty? Well, the term 'poverty' differs from the perspective where it is observed.

According to a nation, there is a poverty line that defines that whether a person is living in poverty or doing well and good. But from the perspective of an individual, the feeling of living in poverty or not is described with respect to his habitat. Think of it for a second, how do you define yourself to be doing well and good? Your life needs to be compared with someone else's, and the first comparison you do is always with the people in your habitat.

Now, as the title seems to be a bit clear, let’s take things a bit deeper, shall we?

Children are raised in a certain habitat by their parents and sent to schools and colleges according to their capabilities and financial status. Eventually, they create their own circle in which they live in, gradually comparing themselves along with other kids of their circle, leading to demands that are sometimes out of the capability of their parents. Well, making those irrational demands is fine up to a certain age when they are naïve and do not understand the financial status of their family. Moderation during that age is the key to a proper upbringing of the children.

Well, moderation is the key when the demands are irrational, but what if the demands and requirements are genuine? Still there comes the factor of ‘being able to provide’ by the parents. And what if that factor is also met and still they are negated?

Parents need to understand that when they are pushing their children into certain circles and habitat during their study life, the changes that come along with it are huge. Moderate your children till they are sane enough to understand the value of money and freedom that they acquire from you. But, after a certain age, they are rightful of acquiring certain basic things to survive in the habitat that they have created, so it's the duty of their parents to provide them as per their capabilities rather than making them feel deprived and being in a wrong habitat. Some parents just forget that their kids are growing, and they need certain things according to their age. This, in turn, creates an imbalance leading to unwanted abnormalities within the parent-children relationship. Parents might think that they are still doing good, and they are at the best in their game by moderating, but neglecting needs as per the growing age of their children is one of their major flaws.

Now, for the individuals who feel deprived and by relating to this situation, feeling as if this is your story, do not go on charging on your parents or guardians showing off this post. Instead, try and make them understand about your needs with proper and decent words, and if that still doesn't work, just realize that the demands and desires you have are to be earned and not begged. Even though its the responsibility of your parents to provide you, they can decide not to do so with their own reasons in mind. So, the only option that remains for you to keep your self-respect intact is obtaining everything you want through hard work and perseverance Be it your freedom or something materialistic, earn it! If your habitat is making you feel depressed of you not having those things, leave the habitat for your own good.

Parents being naive and not providing even after being capable is a sad part, but turning that feeling of being deprived and living in some kind of poverty into something better by working towards a better future with everything you always wanted in life is the best way out.

So, if your parents are not providing, start earning yourself to bring a change.

Thank you for reading till the end, and do let me know if you have some contradicting views on this topic. This is just my personal view, so apologies if I have not considered any perspective in this post.