GIVE BIRTH ONLY WHEN CAPABLE

I cannot emphasize on this topic and say that I am right to the full extent, but being in certain situations and viewing some of them from a distance has made me think of this for a while. The title seems to be about family planning, and it truly describes that, but with a little different perspective.

Birth and death are the two ultimate laws of nature. Both of them can be controlled to a certain extent by precautionary measures created by men. Well, death can still be stated uncertain and can only be mitigated to a certain extent, but birth can be controlled as per the requirement and readiness of the individuals craving to be parents.

Family planning is done by almost everyone nowadays, and most of the pieces fall into place if everything goes on smoothly. Parenting is always filled with challenges as the requirements increase with the age of children, and planning done is also susceptible to collapse at times leading to unwanted scenarios. I am not a parent and I cannot explain the pressure or torments every parent has to go through so I will not go around advising how they should earn and fulfill the needs of every child, but there are certain things every parent must know and realize while raising up their children.

As my title says- ‘give birth only when capable’, has a deeper meaning to it. It means planning, not only keeping in mind the present status of the individuals deeming to be parents but also with the motive of not stressing both their lives and the life of the child that is to be born down the line.

Life is always full of challenges, be it being parents or just mere individuals leading their lives. But yes, parenting is much more challenging as you have lots of responsibilities. The thing that matters most is the mental stability while raising a child, and this is the most important factor that counts. When an individual is mentally strong and has the ability to handle situations, even an unplanned child is welcomed by him, and challenges are taken care with ease. On the other hand, a weak minded individual will fail even if the child is properly planned. Sounds bitter, but being a child or a parent, you will relate to what I am saying.

I am not implying that weak minded people should not give birth, but they should get hold of a better partner who can control them and take things into their hand at troublesome situations or should try to get their weak side strengthened before turning into a parent. This talk can be directed towards choosing a better partner and how they can properly nourish a weak mind's life, but I would like to stick onto the topic of raising a child, as children matter the most after a couple becomes parents.

Weak minded people often turn out blaming others for their weakness, and in most of the cases, they are charged back by the people with sane counters, putting the weak minds in their place. But if that person is a parent of some child and he is accusing his child of all the situations in his life, making the child count every penny spent on him? Or maybe accusing the child over things that might not even be his concerns at that age. There might be many outbursts that I might not even be able to imagine and put out here, but I guess you got my point. Things like these need control, and the ones who are weak-minded must admit to themselves and go for therapies and help so that they can make both their life and their family's life peaceful.

Taking responsibilities is a great deal, and when it’s about a child, utmost care is always required. The child might not be able to talk back or fight back, but it is your responsibility to do what is just, not whatever you feel like doing. Blaming and shouting at everyone is the not the solution for the weakness a person feels within, strengthening it and finding the true potential through proper therapies is the only solution. The family you create must feel like a safe corner, rather than something you or the other individuals have to bear.

So, try and be a proud parent of a happy child, rather than a weak parent of a tormented mind.

 Thank you for reading till the end, and do comment your views down below. Apologies if I overstated something, but this is just a personal opinion.